Had an interesting convo with a new friend yesterday about our choices and the constant challenges we face in the hustle for a better life, was interesting how every time we disagreed about something he would say 'life is unfair u know'...then I asked , is life really unfair or are we the ones unfair to ourselves by always making the wrong choices and crazy demands... coveting what we shudn't...indulging where we shud be exercising restraint...constant bickering about trivial stuff...choosing to fix our eyes on the insignificant and wasting our energies on stuff that doesn't add zilch to our lives...living our lives constantly wanting to be right instead of striving for happiness... worrying about what ppl thought of us instead of worrying about character...
So perhaps the true question shud be what is life really....before we blame 'life' for being unfair to us...where is it written that life is a certain 'thing' that is meant to be perfect for all...no where...your life is YOU...yes YOU...your choices...your decisions...your drive...your character...your abilities..how you apply yourself will determine how yr life turns out...so the next time you are tempted to say life is unfair...look in the mirror...
Before you jump on my throat...ofcoz we all know that our existence is affected by the many factors surrounding us...be it family, the country you are born in...the religion or culture you born into etc...however yr legacy...yr life is entirely yr responsibility...once you are old enough to make choices...you create yr life...be it fairly or unfairly...its all on you...there I said it...sue me :-)
ZeeK love...
Most of us have gone through times in our lives that are difficult. Some have been small like not having money to go to work or computer crashing and you loosing all your documents, and hard to understand and some have been big and overwhelming like when a your child is sick and will no get better or teenager commits suicide, or a father rapes a child, or even worse the Haiti or tsunami.. During these times we want answers, don't we? We want to know why.Why did God let it happen, Where was He when all this happened, Why do we have to suffer? Why do bad things happen to good people? We just want someone to make sense of it all.
ReplyDeleteBut we don't always get the answers we want, do we? Sometimes we are left wondering. And those moments can be the worst in your life when you sit without answers. Maybe there are times we need to be released from having to have all the answers. And maybe it's when we're released that we are able see there may be more going on here than we realize.
Or Maybe if we are to accept and understand that life is a chain reaction of events activated at times by our choices and at times by things beyond our control , then we will begin to understand that life definately is what it is life...